College/Post College

This is directed at those of you who are either currently in a relationship or have experienced one during college and after. 


This may be a bit delayed, but I've been delayed, so whatever. 


When me and Beth broke up, she said to me that maybe we made for a good couple, but not a good real-life couple. At the time, I was so upset that I couldn't even process what she said and I just moved on from it. But recently, I've started thinking about it and realized that that was actually a pretty profound statement. It got me wondering, what is the difference between the two and can two people who were in love in college really just not work after college because of the change? 


So what's the difference?


College


You live within minutes of each other, so you can see each other whenever, but you aren't obligated to see each other all the time
If one goes out, the other usually goes with
Both usually have the same friends, or close enough
Money isn't usually an issue
Neither is a job
Big life decisions, such as marriage and kids usually wait until after college
(I think I hit the fundamental flaw on the last three)


Post-College


If you are living together, you very rarely are able to get away from the person
Decisions such as money and who you are spending time with suddenly become joint decisions
Careers as well
And of course, life decisions such as marriage come into play


And that is partially where my relationship fell apart. Partially. And ever since Beth told me about this, I look at relationships in that light. 


It's funny, because now I look at people in school who I never in a million years would've dated while they were in school and I see them differently because of who they turned into after school. Horrible college couple, maybe not a horrible after-college couple.


So I wonder if anybody else sees people that way, I'm interested. It's kind of a weird way to look at relationships. But I think it works.


Song Currently Stuck in my Head:
Closer to the Truth and Further from the Sky - Butch Walker